Dating Advice

Identifying Love While Dating

It’s easy for intense emotions to develop during dating and for all of those
emotions to be thought of as love. But where there is obsession and affection that feels
stifling, then it may be lust that is on display and not love.
Compared with lust, love is also about having a strong liking for someone and
displaying passionate affection for the person. But love involves being considerate,
thoughtful, reasonable and understanding. That means love involves positive emotion and
makes the individual feel good about him or herself, and also about the person who is
displaying the affection.
Love has entered your dating relationship if you are able to confide in and trust
your date. It means that you feel comfortable and secure around your date and you want
that person to share more of your world. In dating therefore, love is evident not only by
warm fuzzy feelings, but also by the extent to which you can relax, be open and be
yourself in the presence of your date.
When you both have divulged personal information to each other and told each
other of your long- and short-term plans for example, then you both are definitely getting
serious because you are sharing things that have a big impact on your life. By sharing
such plans, it’s also an indirect way to see if you totally connect and if a life together
could work for both of you. If the dating wasn’t getting serious, there would be no such
concern about how your different plans could affect each other.
When you deliberately seek the opinions of your date, it means that you value
their opinions and want to act on them. If you are ready and willing to get advice from
your date and to act on it, then it also means that your date is more to you than the
stranger you started dating.
When you are at a stage in dating where you no longer feel very aware of your
date, and you don’t feel the need to be careful about all your behavior and mannerisms,
then it could be a sign that you both have developed a good understanding of each other
and both love what you see.
In that scenario, it would mean that you both think that you are compatible, and
where true compatibility exists, it also means that love would have blossomed from your
dating experience. Compatibility means that your personalities compliment each other,
that you both share the same values, morals and some common interests but that you also
have differences that you accept and respect in each other.
That’s another indicator that your dating experience resulted in love, because
from getting to know each other while dating, you both liked the differences you saw and
embraced them.
It means that the more time you spent together, the more you got to know each
other and the closer you became. A closer bond means a deepening friendship and
relationship and one in which love is a key element.
More than likely, you both also have felt some passion and magic when you are
together, or, warm, fuzzy emotions. Coupled with all the other qualities, it is important
that there is strong passion on the part of both you and your date, and also that there is the
intangible but very present sense of magic when you are in each other’s company.
If your dating has grown to the stage where there is trust, confidentiality,
compatibility, ease in each other’s presence, passion and magic, then it indicates that your
dating experience occurred with the right person and you both have fallen in love with
each other.

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